Response to Question (and reply to Kinga's post)

"Parents who are successful expect too much of their children in school"

So, I have to disagree with Kinga because, personaly, I believe all parents, no matter if they are wealthy and successful or if they are poor or not as wealthy, no matter what status, it all depends on the parents’ personalities on how much they push us; we, as individual students from different families, wouldn’t know how much the other students’ parents are pushing them.

I’m not saying that I'm right and Kinga is wrong, but in view of someone else's life, referring to me, my parents were pretty good off back in their countries until they came here where they faced hardships and had to rebuild from start. Both my parents are also immigrants and my dad was very poor growing up and almost did not go to college until he worked his butt of with a job; my mom even missed a few meals and saved for almost three years, skipping come of high school and going to college later on. They also had to support all their siblings. Hence, they tried very hard to get to where they are today.

Most people don’t realize but no matter even if a person makes tons of money, some of them work their butts of a lot, not that I’m saying others don’t. But sometimes it makes me a bit upset when people say that less successful people work harder than the more successful. Also, I see my mother come home practically every day puking or sick because she worked many hours without lunch or sleep to finish her work’s project. Sometimes I don’t see my father the whole day cause he is on a business trip or has to stay work more because his company needs more from him. It may seem that people who haven’t had a good “after high school” life work harder. But in all honesty, nobody knows how hard others work unless they see what’s going on with people from a different view. And still, they do all this not to gain more money and be selfish but they tell me constantly that they work only to help us, their children, with our futures.

Even so, my mom pushes me so hard to do my best that I feel suffocated but I know it’s for my own good and in reality, mostly all parents want their children to achieve, in life, a higher status then they did and she is worried about me living the hard life she went through. I always am lectured boundlessly on how to not spend money wastefully and how to always save and work my hardest to try my best and am always yelled at if my parents feel like I’m not trying my best.

Including my example above, I have a friends who have parents haven't been very successful and they let their children do whatever they want or they allow them to be more free with what they do. While I am stuck at home studying because my parents made me to, they, my friends, are hanging out with each other and having fun going places and such. I feel that this shows my point.

Basically, my point is that, sure, some successful people lower their standards on their kids, but so do less successful parents. It’s all based on their parents’ personality, in my opinion, not their amount of success, not to be rude to Kinga in any way or say that she is wrong.

All in all, sure, I agree that successful parents expect too much from their children with school, but that’s only from my experience and it’s all different for all different statuses and different beliefs and we, as different individuals, would not know cause things like parents pushing their children at school because we only see things from our own view. It all depends.